Why don’t you just stay home?
Posted by Mom at 10:58am in The WOHM YearsI’m having one of those days where I want to quit my financially responsible adult life, go home, and crawl into bed with my babies. We would snuggle, work on their homeschooling, and watch old movies for the rest of the evening.
This morning started out with my 2 1/2 year old crying for me to stay home. My baby’s display of separation anxiety ripped at my heart. I don’t normally feel the “working mom’s” guilt, because I know that I HAD to work full-time after my husband’s accident (I’m working on an About Me page that will explain this in further detail). However, the guilty feelings are creeping up on me because I can’t make my stay at home transition happen quicker.
Recently, I received an e-mail from a well-meaning friend, who wrote, “If you want to be a stay at home mom so badly, why don’t you just stay home now?” If only it were that easy. I wouldn’t be here blogging, but rather handing in my notice immediately! In fact, I’ve daydreamed about that day right down to the exact wording of my resignation letter!
Unfortunately, our reality is that I am the major breadwinner. I cannot stay home until we have generated enough income (from my husband’s business and whatever WAHM business I do). This does not happen overnight. Through careful planning and budgeting, we have paid off most of our debt. We need to have our savings built up enough to get us through some inevitable lean months, when we are both self-employed again. Then I can stay home.
Anyway, I plan on taking a mental health day soon so I can spend a long weekend with my family, review our financial goals, and pray. Oh yeah, and maybe daydream a little.
